Friendship in a nutshell

A friend is one that knows you as you are, understands where you have been, accepts what you have become, and still, gently allows you to grow. – William Shakespeare

So, I want to talk about a couple of things. A couple of things that have come to light over the last few months.

Friends have been a huge part of my life recently. One in particular, and to be honest. Without them, I don’t think I’d be standing quite as tall as I am now, and they are pretty short! Oh the irony, ha!

Don’t get me wrong, I couldn’t have done any of it without my Mum and my sister. But the friend, I don’t know, I suppose having an outsiders point of view on things can be a great help. And they definitely have been.

I haven’t known them long, but I feel as though I’ve known them for years. I suppose when you meet someone that you click with. Time becomes irrelevant.

The thing is, having had a really rough few months, I mean really rough. Everyone has put the blame on them. And I don’t think that’s fair at all. When actually, people should be thanking them for helping me keep my head above water.

They listened, they offered advice, and a shoulder to cry on when I needed it. We laugh about stupid things, send silly memes and jokes and just enjoy life as it is.

I can’t understand what is so wrong with having someone in your life that you can laugh with, surely it’s better to laugh than cry.

I would trust this person with my life. Despite only knowing them a short time. I know that if I needed them, I could just pick up the phone and shout and they would be there, no questions asked.

I just wish people would see things from my point of view.

Equally, I’ve been there for them. They have had an equally rough time. And I have been quite happy to be a listener and I have offered advice where I can. We just click, we enjoy lots of the same things. And one of the best things, sharing music! I’ve found artists I’d never even heard of thanks to them. I was getting slightly bored with the old stuff.

I don’t intend to let this friend go. So suck it up people. Ce Sera.

You can always tell a real friend: when you’ve made a fool of yourself he doesn’t feel you’ve done a permanent job. – Laurence J. Peter

The other thing.

I’ve learned a few things about myself recently. The first is that I trust far too easily. And a lot of people are out to shit on you, no matter how much they say “You can trust me”. Trust should not be taken, and be thrown under a bus. Trust should be taken and treasured like a precious jewel.

If you betray my trust, I will never forget. Eventually I would forgive, but it would take a long while.

I’ve learned that not everyone is your friend, and some people just want information that they can use against you later on, when you tell them some home truths.

That’s another thing that I am. I am honest, if you want my opinion I will not lie to you, I will tell you straight. Through my eyes everything is black or white.

I am not going to sit here and pretend that everything is OK. Because everything is not OK. But time as they say, is a healer. I write about this stuff, because it’s how I get everything out of my system. It’s a way of healing myself I suppose, so I can sleep well at night.

I used to put everything into a book. These days it’s easier and faster, and tidier to type it up and share it with you, my readers.

Know that I am grateful for each and every one of you. Without you, perhaps I wouldn’t be writing as much as I do.

I needed to write this post, though some may disagree with what I say. But what can I do? Like I said, I’m honest.

Happy New year everyone. May 2018 be the best one yet.

Soph x

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